Sunday, February 26, 2012

9 Secrets to Great "Family" Teamwork

9 Secrets to Great “Family” Teamwork
Each family is a team, and as such they should be supporting and enhancing each other.

Secret #1 – Set expectations, express your needs.  You can’t expect your family team members to try to meet your needs if you never tell them what your needs are.

Your needs can be as simple as, “I need help unloading the car.” Or “I need quiet while I finish this project.” up to “I need help exercising more or changing what I eat.”

If you don’t say it, they can’t help you achieve it.

Roger and Virginia interview Dr. Robyn Odegaard PhD., on issues concerning the drama of upset relationships and disharmony in families, sports teams and the corporate workplace. “Doc Robyn” reveals the 7 No-Fail Secrets to Stop the Drama.
http://webtalkradio.net/2011/05/30/the-learning-curve-%e2%80%93-dr-robyn-odegaard-reveals-the-7-no-fail-secrets-to-stop-the-drama/

Sunday, February 19, 2012

No Fail Secret to Better Talks with Your Kids, Your Spouse, Your Colleagues

Secret #5 – Ask Before Giving Feedback.  No one likes to be blindsided, including your kids, your spouse and your colleagues.  Ask if now is a good time to talk.  If not, set a definite day and time to talk and keep the appointment.

If your child, spouse or colleague can’t keep the appointment, remind them that they set the day and time, it’s up to them to live up to the commitment they made and have the talk now.

To hear more about Doc Robyn's 7 No Fail Secrets go to:
http://webtalkradio.net/2011/05/30/the-learning-curve-%e2%80%93-dr-robyn-odegaard-reveals-the-7-no-fail-secrets-to-stop-the-drama/

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Create and Use a Team Vocabulary

7 No Fail Secrets to Stop the Drama!

Secret #6 – Create and Use a Team Vocabulary: create phrases and words that everyone on the team understands in a given context.  Many miscommunications happen because words provide less than 10% of the meaning of the message.

Each family is a team and as such they create their own phrases and words that everyone in the family understands.  The family creates their own unique communication fingerprint/style amongst themselves.  This is made up of the connotations or words, plus the mood and body language used.

Children initially learn their communication fingerprint/style from their family.  The meaning of words and phrases used by one family may not mean the same to another family.  Therefore, when children use their family’s communication fingerprint outside of the family, communication misunderstandings and conflict can occur.

To fix this when it happens:
·         Realize that your understanding of a word or phrase can be different from another’s.  So don’t assume everyone understands your unique communication fingerprint/style.
·         When a misunderstanding happens, assume the positive – give the other person the benefit of the doubt.  Believe that person has a positive reason for what they’re saying or doing.
·         Find out what is the misunderstood phrase or word and explain what you mean.  Now allow the other person to express their understanding.  Remember, they will have their own family and/or cultural communication fingerprint/style.
Roger and Virginia interview Dr. Robyn Odegaard PhD., on issues concerning the drama of upset relationships and disharmony in families, sports teams and the corporate workplace. “Doc Robyn” reveals the 7 No-Fail Secrets to Stop the Drama.
http://webtalkradio.net/2011/05/30/the-learning-curve-%e2%80%93-dr-robyn-odegaard-reveals-the-7-no-fail-secrets-to-stop-the-drama/